Lifestyle Design – The BIGGEST Mistake That Keeps You From Achieving Your Designer Life

Ah, waiting… What a trap that one is. And to think that several philosophies stress how important it is to be patient and just wait for the opportunities to come to you. That has never worked for me. I mean, if you lock yourself up in a room for 2 years and do nothing but visualise money and friends and happiness and adventures you’re obviously not gonna get any of it! As for putting your happiness on hold until you get this or that, or until this or that happens, story of my life and the worst thing anyone can do to themselves. As someone very wisely said: “If you cannot be happy here and now, you never will be.”

For ‘some reason’ I woke up about 4 am and could not get back to sleep. I finally got up and began checking my e-mail, and came across this video. What an inspiration! I am 69 yr. and was beginning to think I was too old to fulfill my dream. But, I am beginning to realize this is the best time in my life.

Thank you so much for sharing.
Reuben Clark

Thankyou,

That was just what the doctor ordered, here I was biting into an egg sandwich thinking “I’ll start that diet tomorrow”, Then walked over to my laptop looked at a course I’ve been meaning to go on and thought, “I’m so tired this weekend, maybe I should ring and schedule it for next week”,

Bruce you’ve been a breath of fresh air, reminding me that if I change today I can start really living the life of my dreams now and not in some ever distancing future.

Have a blessed day!

Thank you, Bruce. What an inspiration your father is! What a wonderful man. Courageous, kind and generous of spirit. Thank you for sharing.

Wow!!! What an Inspirational story!! I bought tears to my eyes as here is a man with a dream in his heart, working for years to fulfil it and with the Grace of God acheiving his dream and here to share the story ..THANK YOU Bruce and dad so much..it has lit a whole new light for me Mahesta xx

F-A-N-T-A-S-T-I-C & I-N-S-P-I-R-A-T-I-O-N-A-L !!!!

Amazing Man! Not that he sailed the world at a riper age but that he dared follow his heart and pursued his dreams.
And that is living life to the fullest. It really takes courage to leave the comfort zones to be really alive.

Thank you Bruce for sharing your father’s inspiring story.

Susan

What a great thing to do at any age! I admire your determination. Awsome journey!

Thanks for your comments. I’ll forward them to my Dad so he can read them. I expect he’ll cry with joy knowing his story inspired you…

I loved the interview with your dad. I have always been one to follow my dreams and I have been living the ‘law of attraction’ life for 12 years. I got swayed from it a couple of years ago, but I’m back on track. I’m getting ready to go after a dream I’ve had for a long time.
There is hope for this world, we just have to keep focusing, visualizing, and passing the word!!

Thank you Bruce
That was very inspirational. What a jolly good fello your dad is . contentment and taking action now is what i learnt from the message.

Hi Bruce,
Wow, your dad’s a fantastic person. Very courageous and humble. I wish I had a dad like yours, so that I can be like you. Whatever you’re doing, keep on doing it. You’re helping alot of people. Thank you and God Bless you, your dad and your family, and everyone you’re involved with.

Bruce, what a lovely man your father is. Please thank him for sharing his story of courage, achievement and self-reliance. It was incredibly inspirational and reduced me to tears.

I have achieved massively in some areas of my life, but have some way to go in others. I have no wish to go to sea or build a boat, but I draw from this story the importance of self-reliance, being prepared and having specific goals.

Bruce, you are confirmation for me that “what you put into life you get back”. You are a giver not a taker and my hope for you is that you will receive back tenfold. To give, with no thought of whether or what you’ll get back has worked so well for me all my life (on the “pay it forward” as opposed to the “pay it back” principle) and I can see that you apply that philosophy too. Well done!

Tom Berry, Cape Town.

WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Bruce, what a lovely story. What a wonderful journey it must have been leading up to fulfilling the dream. Building your own boat, learning all the things you needed to know about running the boat, reading maps, and just putting together what was needed to take such a massive trip. I would expect the road to the dream was as much fun as the dream itself. Whats next?
Bev, Phoenix, AZ.

As an ex sailor {R.N.} Fantastic, power to your Dad.

If I may reply to Rebecca.

Hi Rebecca. Join the club. I have always believed the way you have indicated.

I have lived a life that left me unfulfilled. There has always been this feeling of “There must be something else.”

I started my life out as an apprentice electrician and qualified as a telecommunications electrician Six months early, was promoted to technical assistant in the same year. But after nine years in the trade I gave it all up because I could no longer take that feeling of being unfulfilled.

I moved down to Cape Town and started as a trainee salesman and excelled and became the highest paid salesman in the company in a few years but the feeling never went away so I ditched that and started my own business.

That never blew my hair back and I allowed it to pull me into a large amount of debt. I closed that and till today still owe some of that debt.

I tried driving a radio taxi for two years and tried clearing and forwarding and a few other things and ten years ago I became so “Gatvol” in other words sick and tired that I forced myself into a proper self reflection.

It is in that time that I DECIDED that I there were just a few things that would give me satisfaction.

Here they are, teaching, religious ministry, writing and inventing. Well I have been a religious minister for twenty years but I do not believe in recieving money for that so I do not. I am always writing btu don’t have the desire to publish. I do invent but I normally give my ideas away because I do not have the money to patent. but here is the crux.

I made a firm DESCISION that in four years time I would be a teacher. I told my wife that she would have to start supporting me so that I could go and study.

For reasons that I cannot begin to explain here I did not go and study but “Lo and behold,” I received a phone call four years later and was asked to come in for an interview. I went in for the interview on the Thursday and started working as a lecturer on the Monday.

It is now six years that I have been teaching and I have completed my post graduate certificate in education this year.

The biggest thing of all for me, is that the emptiness no longer exists. For the first time in my life, I look forward to getting up in the morning. I am living the life of my dreams and on a measely salary, much less than I was earning in the early to mid nineties.

Hopefully you can glean out of this story that living the life of your dreams may not necessarily be about how much money you have or intend to have.

If that is what you want then do what I did as salesman. See the people and keep seeing the people and give the best possible service that you can offer. Add to that recipe a lot of being smart, determined and being in the right places at the right time…this list could go on but the most important is see and serve the people. It worked for me.

Now that you no longer have a reason to throw finances in as an excuse for failure, go and reflect upon yourself and find out what it really is that you want and make a DECISION.

Written with love.

Steven Parkes

I didn’t see this video first time round, buy my, it brought tears of joy to my eyes. Your father embodies the dream and is a living testimony to all.

Let’s live whilst we’re alive!

I read a few comments at the top and scrolled down to add mine. Now after reading Steven’s comment to Rebecca as well as her origional comment I’d like to add something else.

I have used the same excuse to myself so many times: no money, not even enough to start. On the surface it seems logical but in reality it is an excuse not to begin.

If there is no money you can set an intent. Then break it down into something that you need to accomplish the bigger thing as Bruce’s father did in getting various training that he needed to learn to build and repair boats.

In my case there was no money for electronics training, but it was a passion. I started by getting everything out of the library and reading it. Then I’d get old TV’s and Radios (this was in the 1960′s) and I’d learn to make things from them which let me learn more.

Then I was given the texts from a correspondence course for communications engineer. Even though I was 14 and had no money the dream brough these things to me. I had a dream to be a radio engineer and the pieces started to come. I loved those books and studied them and after another year I sat for the test and passed it on the first try. This got me a job at a local radio station, which gave me money to buy materials to learn more, and so on.

Finally I went from radio to TV to working for Sony Corp, to starting my own software business with software at 5 of the top 10 broadcasters in the U.S.

And it doesn’t end there. The point is you look to the direction you want to go and start noticing the little things around you. When one of them makes you happy, like the books in the library grab it – use it, then the next thing will appear, it will be attracted to you.

As you take the first steps toward the mountain (figuratively) in front of you, you will be able to see some things that you didn’t see before, soon you’ll be on the foothills and able to see more still. You’ll be able to pick a direction that you didn’t know about before.

And that’s it. Instinctively all of us use the Law of Attraction untill people around us teach us not to. Children imagine and play and it is very real. Then we learn not to pretend and experience the thing we want and we cease to be attracted. We can no longer picture it, instead we believe in reality. We shut down and believe that nothing is possible. It works for others because they had something going in that we didn’t … money or talent or anything that we can’t imagine having.

If you can make the vision clear enough, you can achieve it. It was Napoleon Hill who said, “anything the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.

Wallace Wattles in “The Science of Getting Rich” talks about visioning the things you want, create a new picture of reality in your mind, then you will begin to attract these things.

As with Bruce’s dad, Wattles says that by the vision you create the things but by action you receive them. A vision, acted on in whatever method he could at the time brought him success, brought his vision into reality; and what a great story.

You have to believe again, wake up that 3 year old somewhere inside and believe. The Bible says, “all things are possible to he that believes.” “All things are possible.” What if it is true but you didn’t believe it?

I watched this video of your father for the second time, and enjoyed it just as much. My sister lives not far from there, and we go for a two week visit every March, so I hope I get the opportunity to shake your fathers hand. We used to live there in the early fifties when my own father (deceased) worked on the boats as a radio operator. I’m glad to hear from you again, and I always look forward to your videos, especially when I can get a glimpse of the beach.Thanks to all the other people for their wonderful comments.

am bless by ur word always.

Hi, Bruce,
I can believe that that man is your father because you really are so inspiring. Chip of the old block so to speak. Anyway once again thank you soooo very very much for that great article and yes you’re absolutey right waiting sucks!!!

Hi Bruce
Thank You for the GREAT reminder. The interview with your Dad was marvelous.
Life and Dreams are TODAY. The waiting game is a killer trap.
In Peace and Light to All
Dorothy Biagioni

…..if you are waiting………and you ‘FEEL LIKE YOU ARE WAITING’ then that is more of what you are going to get back!!!

Thank you so much for this inspiritational story. Living your dream today now makes more sense to me. I am working with clearing blocks to living my dream life, but now realize even more that it is my waiting that is holding me back. Lovely story, thanks for sharing.

Jenn

Bruce you a great!Glad I found you!If you were to ask me how I found you on the internet,I really couldnt tell you.I have read the Secret and tried everything in the book.I always knew I was missing something.I always felt that there was something more to learn.Then one day I forgot about it and just let it go.Somehow I came across your website.I wansn’t searching for anything particular.Thank you….You teach me something new everyday!